@trap44er2. I am not a beautiful lady, or lady at all. So Sorry! I don't believe this is that sort of site. Don't get me wrong there are probably ladies here that might talk to you in that way, but from my time here I have not seen any. But if you want to talk to anyone you have to get involved in the forums. Good luck in your search.
To answer your question about knowing when someone is online, you only get to know that by sending a friend request and it being accepted.